If you want to explore issues around relationships or sexuality on your own then we would be happy to work with you. You might be recently separated and need help understanding what happened and what to do now. You might have had a difficulty with sex across many relationships that you would like to be free of. Perhaps you are single and want to learn more about the way you approach being in relationship. Whatever the issue, if it’s about relationships or sex we can certainly help you.
If you are are in a committed relationship, we strongly advise you to explore relationship issues in conjoint therapy with your partner(s). However, we understand that sometimes your partner simply will not agree to therapy or you may have issues that are solely about you (e.g. you are having an affair, or you have a history of childhood abuse that is interfering with your ability to trust) that would benefit from discussing on your own.
If you are thinking about individual therapy simply because you don’t think your partner would be willing to come to see us, we encourage you to be assertive. If the relationship is really not working well for you, then make it a “not negotiable” issue. Even reluctant partners will usually come around if they understand the alternative is separation! We are happy to talk to reluctant partners on the phone to assure them they will get a fair hearing and that we will do our best to help each of you, not just the person who is keen on therapy. If your partner won’t consider therapy, even under that kind of pressure, of course, we will see you on your own to help you work out what to do.